Once you get yourself in a long distance relationship, one aspect of your life takes a huge step back – NO SEX, unless you get lucky (don’t get me wrong- those rare times you manage to meet or find a way around the distance problem)!
For the first year in a long distance relationship we didn’t even know that long distance toys existed, but we still managed to find a way to experience long distance sexual pleasures as much as our fantasies allowed us to by using a dildo while on a Skype call. To be honest, discovering our first long distance sex toys changed things a lot – less arguments and more smiles, to name few.
How to choose the toy that best fits you? Read on!
Lush and Hush
A pink bullet vibrator Lush accompanied by Hush (newly released butt plug) are my favorites! I love these toys because they are waterproof, powerful, discreet, and have a fairly good connection over long distances – it’s up to your creativity how you use this to your advantage.
What about public play — while you are watching a movie in a cinema, attending a cooking course, shopping for groceries – anywhere you can think of, as long as you both have internet connection, and you can manage to control your face? They come in handy not only for those times when you are apart, but for when you are in bed together, too. The toys come with a corresponding app which offers plenty of feature — syncing to music, syncing to your voice, creating and sharing patterns, or syncing the toys together and get them to respond to each other’s movements. Oh, and what about having alarm buzz to wake you up in the mornings?
Nora and Max
The first long distance sex toys we ever got to try is a set which includes a rabbit vibrator (Nora) and a male masturbator (Max) from the same company (good news for same sex couples – any combination is possible). Nora has a rotating head to hit your G-spot and a vibrating arm, both controlled separately from each other. Max has vibrations and air pump features to create a suction feeling and mimic the contractions. While the toys are not suitable for public play, they are definitely must-haves if you are in a long distance relationship. You can use a one-way control, or — wait for it — get the toys synced together and respond to each other’s movements so you can reach the big O together, even while apart!
Are big distances between you two creating a big time difference? You have an option to record a session so you can enjoy it alone and immerse yourself into the pleasures of that special night whenever you feel like!
Pearl and Onyx
One more option which will allow both of you to enjoy the perks of teledildonics. For those who like minimalistic features, Pearl and Onyx Couple (variations possible for same sex couples) have very appealing designs – looking at Onyx you can hardly guess what it really is. The device is a bit heavy and my boyfriend said it could have stronger sensations (it has three modes: fist-pump mode, slow motion mode, and a manual mode).
Pearl has an appealing appearance and a soft silicone cover. Even though I personally haven’t tried it, I know that many vaginas out there have been highly satisfied with Pearl for solo use!
A fine-looking video chat interface allows you to enjoy long distance sex as long as both sides are connected to internet and with each other over the corresponding app — both toys can transmit signals to each other so you can actually feel what the other person does.
Blue Motion Nex|1 and Blue Motion Nex|2
Blue Motion Nex|1 is a sleek and tiny panty vibrator which looks just like Club Vibe by OhmiBod. It can be easily worn under tight clothes and controlled via distance in real time — great for virtual public play with your sweetheart while FaceTiming. I could totally use it for virtual foreplay or when my partner is visiting. However, the vibrator is actually so tiny that you might need something a bit bigger and stronger to take off.
Blue Motion Nex|2 is a vibrator which can be used for a G-spot or clitoral stimulation. It has a neat design, and its shape is perfect for those who are just entering the world of sex toys.
Overall, however, I think that there are few disadvantages which make both toys not worth their price: they are splash proof (but not waterproof), so you don’t have much freedom when it comes to usage (imagine the Blue Motion Nex|2 in the bathtub!). When it comes to the app, it’s not really stable. It can become rather frustrating when trying to take control of your partner’s toy. Keep in mind it’s only the female that is getting the pleasure. The only pleasure the other person gets is through the ability to control the toy.
On a positive note, the app has some innovative features like tracking your orgasms (if you ever feel the need to – but I’m not sure why would I want to do that). Also, besides the long distance control, the app has touch, voice, tap, wave, and rhythm functions. I think it can be fun to use the toys if the app gets is improved.
Nuo and Dua
Nuo unisex anal toy (which, to be honest, didn’t look feminine enough for me to actually buy it) can be enjoyed over distance, but the Je Joue app allows only one function: record the pattern and send it to your lover. To be honest, this might become more frustrating than pleasurable.
I would say that it is more suitable for public play since you can’t enjoy the thrill of controlling it in real-time (the main feature needed if you want to have a long distance sex toy which actually does satisfy you).
Dua is a cute G-spot and clitoral stimulator which has two independent vibrators. It lets you choose what works the best for your body. Uses the same app as Nuo. It, unfortunately, also has quite limited long distance features.
Vibease and Esthesia
Vibease is a remote control waterproof vibrator that’s made from a body safe silicone and looks so pretty that I would gladly carry it in my handbag all the time (just in case!) It can be worn under your (tight) panties any time you want.
Esthesia rabbit vibrator has a beautiful and smooth look, designed for Gspot and clitoris play. A good choice for the ladies who have their partner far away to play with them or are alone. However, in this case, the game can only be played one-way.
Both toys can be controlled by your partner at any distance via the interactive touchpad on the Vibease app, synced with music or your texts. You can make audio or video calls too. The app has something different from other ones out there for those who like erotica: the vibrations can sync with erotic audiobooks… And there is a surprisingly huge selection of them!
Nova, Rave, We-Vibe Classic, We-Vibe Sync and We-Vibe 4 Plus
Wevibe has 5 toys which work with their We-Connect app as long as you and your sweetie has 3G/4G/wifi: Nova (dual vibrator for females), Rave (G-spot stimulator), We-Vibe Classic, We-Vibe Sync, and We-Vibe 4 Plus (originally designed as vibrators for couples to be used during sex). The easy and appealing designs made me fall in love with all of them!
The app can sync to the sound or given permission to control your toy in real time. You can even create a personal playlist or draw your own vibe. However, the only drawback about We-Vibe products is that the pleasure is one-way. When apart, one of you might feel a bit left out.
Before you purchase anything, you might want to consider the fact that Standard Innovation (We-Vibe maker) was recently sued because We-vibe Bluetooth enabled vibrators to transmit the user data (such as vibration intensity and heat level) back to the company’s servers in Canada. Standard Innovation stated that this information determines if the device processors are operating correctly. They also have taken steps to enhance the data security. You can read more about it here.
All the information about their toys here.
Vibratissimo Uno, Vibratissimo Duo, Vibratissimo Tre, Vibratissimo Clinique, Vibratissimo Sei
Vibratissimo is a product line that includes five female toys (two types of kegel balls and three vibrators) to meet everyone’s needs and is controlled by the Vibratissimo app. All of them are made using medical grade silicone, splash proof (not waterproof) and can be controlled via long distance or remotely for the personal use.
All the toys have multiple speeds and can be used with or without the app. The cool thing about the app is that it allows you to do Kegel exercises and track your progress. It even has an orgasm detector by tracking the temperature of your vagina!
I found the design of the toys, however, a bit masculine. Also, all of them are more suitable for a solo play than for people in the long distance relationships.
You can find more information about their toys here.
If you are considering buying your first set of long distance sex toys, you are doing a huge favor to yourself and your relationship. Congratulations — you can finally concentrate on building the bond with your sweetheart.
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