Home is where the Heart is…
LDRs are challenging not only because you don’t see each other (like it’s not making the situation hard enough!), but also because people around you put on a lot of extra pressure without knowing it. Don’t take it too seriously or blame them. What matters in the end is your happiness. And you are not responsible for everyone else’s comfort on your decisions.
They know that they are a regular couple, who WILL be together in the (near) future. If you are not sure how to make it work and enjoy the chapter of living apart, read this set of tips for tough moments of long distance relationship.
The financial aspect in long distance relationship requires quite a bit of planning. It also almost guarantees that you won’t be able to consider any additional investment opportunities during this phase. But never forget: life is about memories and the secret to happiness is spending money on experiences (with the people you love), not things.
You might think that a distant love experience is just an unfortunate situation you got yourself into. But be sure you will come out of it much more matured, stronger and motivated than you’ve been before!
What did your long distance relationship teach you?
A long distance relationship is the hardest experience you might get yourself into, and doing it during college years is much more complicated and risky. I always say to friends: the time I spent in a distant relationship was the toughest experience of my life. But the man I’ve done it for was worth every day of waiting. Do it ONLY if you are sure about the person! Share your experience if you are/were in a LDR during college years below!
Closing the distance is so much more than moving in together. It’s also (at least) one of you leaving everything behind and moving across country or much further, so you both can pursue happiness as a couple. It’s exciting and little bit scary… And you know, it’s so worth it.
My main advice for anyone who is in a LDR: plan on closing the distance. If you decided to stay miles apart, I assume that you are sacrificing so much because you are sure about your willingness to be together. Think of a timeframe you can be apart (which shouldn’t be more than a year, to keep it healthy). Plan what has to be done to make the move as smooth as possible and start spending your time in preparing for it.
Find what works for the both of you,and nurture your bond using some of those ideas. If you have more ideas, leave a comment below and I will add them to the list!
Long distance relationships are not something anyone would get into of their own free will, but it does help to lay down a strong foundation for your relationship. Take this time as an opportunity to learn about your partner and yourself, discover your flaws and scope for improvement, your advantages, priorities, and opinions.
There is no answer way to know if your LDR will work- there is no formula to make it happen. It’s not easy. Actually, it’s very tough, but possible. Make sure you are prepared before you enter one and your chance of success is much higher!