Want to be a passionate dominant in the bedroom?
You know, a couple of months ago I was at a wedding❤️. The bride and groom were the center of attention after the ceremony. And everyone seemed happy and joyful, but one thought kept nagging at me and here’s the rub: these games are mostly focused on who will rule in the marriage? As I watched the fun competition unfold, an obsessive thought came to me: could this be a game predictor of who can take the lead in the bedroom?
What does it mean to be sexually dominant or dominant? Well, simply put, someone who enjoys dominating and taking the lead. In an intimate encounter, both parties enjoy interacting in a way that pleases them, regardless of gender or sexual preference. People can either enjoy dominating or being dominated. Those who enjoy the former are called submissives or subs, while those who enjoy the latter are called dominants.
Being sexually dominant in the bedroom is sometimes mistaken for being unkind or disrespectful to others. But nothing could be further from the truth. Being assertive doesn’t change your personality. It simply reveals another aspect of who you are. It’s like tapping into a stronger, freer part of you that’s always been there, just waiting to be released.
Debunking Some Dominance Myths
It’s so weird, isn’t it? These power dynamics in the bedroom can be completely unrelated to how we act in our everyday lives. Take, for example, this shy guy I once dated – barely a social media presence and barely saying a word in public. But when we became intimate, he surprised me by taking charge. When he whispered “beg me and do what I say,” I was instantly thrown! He loved being sexually dominant, and as a corporate girl boss, I loved being submissive. From my own experience and what I have heard from friends, it is clear that people can exhibit completely different personalities in bed, and this is what makes the process exciting and hot.
Well, that’s what it can feel like to be open to your desires and experiment with them.
If you are nervous or unsure, its okay to start slowly and ease into the role of the dominant. You dont have to dive right into intense BDSM action. Start with small gestures or commands in intimate moments to gauge your partner’s response and comfort level. Before engaging in any BDSM activity, establish safe words and boundaries with your partner. This will ensure that you both feel safe and respected throughout the experience.
And here are a few, or 5 in particular, that I would highlight:
1. Talk It Out First 🗨️
Start with a heart-to-heart. Ask your partner what they’re into, what’s a no-go, and agree on a safe word. Maybe say, “What gets you going?” or “Wanna try something new?” Clear chats build trust, so you can lead with ease. Consent’s the foundation! 🙌
2. Rock Your Vibe 💪
Confidence is everything. Stand strong, lock eyes, and speak with a steady voice. Try guiding your partner’s hands or whispering something spicy. It’s not about being flawless -just own the moment. Practice a bold look in the mirror to feel it! 😎
3. Lead with Fun Commands 🎯
Take the reins with playful directions. Say stuff like, “Stay right there,” or “Eyes on me.” Keep it teasing, not pushy. Add a light touch, like holding their wrists gently. Check their vibe to make sure they’re into it. Start small, then turn up the heat! 😘
4. Try Safe Power Play ⛓️
Dip into dominance with easy stuff like a blindfold or leading the rhythm. Always keep it safe -use a safe word (like “stop” or “yellow”) and check in. New to this? Try guiding a slow, sexy massage. 🕯️ Stay chill and only do what feels good for both.
5. Tune Into Your Partner 👀
Leading means listening. Watch their reactions -smiles, sounds, or shivers. If they’re all in, keep going! If they hesitate, pause and ask, “You good?” After, cuddle or chat to wind down. ❤️ A great leader cares, making it epic for both of you.
So what can we learn from my observations?
Exploring dominance roleplay & scenarios can be an exhilarating journey of self-discovery. Incorporating water lube, sex cuffs, vibrators and sex toys into the game can create a more exciting experience. Whether it is controlling your partners movements with silk ties or teasing them with a feather tickler, the possibilities are endless, or controlling them through a special sex toy app. Roleplay can range from traditional BDSM scenarios like teacher/student dynamics to more creative fantasies like doctor / patient or spy / interrogator.
But everyone chooses for themselves what they want and what is closer to them=) but remember that it is important to respect and discuss everything in advance so that there are no unpleasant surprises